So I won't even begin to beat around the bush when it comes to my absence from blogging. After the events of our remodel last winter, I was a bit beaten down. Things got off schedule, I got irritated, and have yet to finish the blogs about the remodel. One day...one day those will get finished. But until that time...I think it's okay if I move on to other things that are weighing on me. That's what this is all about, right?
When I started this blog several years ago...I didn't know what it was going to be. I believe that what I'd hope for was that it would become a creative outlet for me. Well, for a while it was. Then it turned into a chore...and I started to take longer and longer breaks from it. But I always seemed to come back to it, because it's comforting. Comforting knowing that I'm able to express myself through written (or typed in this case) form...and that others sometimes completely get what I mean. Lord knows that most of the time I'm talking, I don't even know what the hell I'm saying.
The title of this post is something that has been rolling around in my head for a while. We live in a world where people say one thing...but then never follow through. Who knows what the reason is; maybe they said it out of politeness, or they just don't really care enough to follow through. Or even still, things happen, things come up...and we all get busy. Those are all reasons for people not keeping their word.
I try my hardest to keep my word. I want my word to be worth it's weight in gold. And because I'm this way, I sometimes expect that others will be that way too. And that's where I get into trouble. When you hold others to your standards...you are only going to be disappointed. Because lets be honest, we are hardest on ourselves...and so most of us strive to do the best we can. And I think we somewhat think others feel the same way.
I was taught from a very young age that when you give someone your word, no matter how small the thing, you kept it. If you said you were going to be somewhere at a certain time...be there, and be a little bit early. If things come up, be courteous to the other person/people by giving them the heads up. These things may seem like common sense to some of us, but in all honesty...it's amazing how many people just don't seem to realize the importance of them.
Take for instance the last job I worked. I had a coworker who was habitually late. As an office manager, I believed that it was my duty to be there before the others to get things in the office in order and ready to go. I was living up in Mukilteo, and commuting to Seattle...which was an easy commute on the Sounder (the commuter train)...as long as it didn't rain (or hell, even sprinkle) because there were always landslides that covered the tracks. But no matter what, I made it into town, on time.
This coworker didn't seem to care. They would waltz in 5 to 10 minutes late, give some half assed excuse as to why they were late this time, and then go about their day as if nothing were wrong. I remember sitting down with them and discussing this issue. And the thing I tried to impress upon them was, "By showing up late to work, or to a meeting or even just a get together with friends...you are telling those people that you don't care about them and their time doesn't matter."
Now it's hard for some people to see that point. You could argue that there was traffic, or that you had a flat tire, or that your alarm didn't go off. You could give a million excuses. But in the end, they are excuses. If someone or something is important to you, you make sure that you keep your word. Now that's not to say that there aren't unforeseen circumstances that do come up, because they do happen. But if you are the kind of person who is always late, or always canceling plans...this does nothing but speak to your character and lack of respect for anyone but yourself.
The younger generations (my lord listen to me...it's like I'm 80 or something lol) are growing up in a time where they are taught that they are the important one. They are being raised to expect things to be handed to them, and that if things are hard just walk away and find something else that is easier. They are lacking the same values that were instilled in so many in the past. And that truly saddens me.
I want to give you my word that I'm going to start blogging regularly...but I don't want to just pay lip service to you all. What I can say is that I'm going to make an effort to sit down and put my feelings into a blog post. Especially right now, when there is so much violence and hate in this world...and my heart is heavy and my mind is just jumbled with questions, fears and concerns. But sometimes, we just feel the need to withdraw from it all. I'm not saying that's right or wrong...I'm just saying that it's how we can feel.
Well I'd better get my butt in gear, I need to get some things done around the house before I have company this afternoon.
Until next time, Keep Cookin'!